
A father is debating whether or not or to not kick his stepdaughter out of his house due to how “disrespectful” she is.
Posting to the subreddit “r/AmItheA–hole” (AITA) — a discussion board the place customers strive to determine in the event that they had been incorrect or not in an argument that has been bothering them — he defined that his 24-year-old stepdaughter lives in his house and would not comply with any of his guidelines.
He desires to kick his stepdaughter out after discovering that she stole from his organic daughter.
In his Reddit submit, he shared that his spouse had handed away from breast most cancers a couple of years in the past, leaving him to boost their two daughters, aged 19 and 17. It wasn’t till a yr and a half in the past that he discovered love once more after assembly Vicky.
“Vicky has a daughter, Heather, 24, and collectively they got here to dwell with us. Vicky and I didn’t get married, so Heather isn’t technically my stepdaughter,” he defined. From the beginning of dwelling with Heather, he seen that she wasn’t very good, particularly to him.
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Regardless of attempting to get to know her and forming a cordial relationship, nothing that he did appeared to work. He seen that not solely was Heather extraordinarily disrespectful to him, but additionally to her personal mom.
“Heather additionally picked verbal fights with my daughters, however I squashed that quickly after it occurred. Heather was the instigator and I advised her that if she had an issue, she ought to direct it at me as an alternative of at my daughters. It appeared to work.”
Regardless of considering he had managed to curb his stepdaughter’s conduct, issues took a flip after his eldest daughter, Casey, turned 19.
For her birthday, he had purchased her a $500 spa reward card she may use with a buddy. Casey ended up selecting her youthful sister to go along with her, and the 2 simply needed to decide a date and reservation.
“Casey needed to make the reservation two days in the past, however couldn’t discover the reward card. After hours of looking out, we couldn’t discover it. When Heather got here house we requested if she had seen it. She advised us she didn’t,” he continued.
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After looking for one other hour, Vicky ultimately discovered the reward card in Heather’s room. She ultimately admitted to having swiped the reward from Casey’s room and utilizing it on the spa along with her girlfriend.
“I used to be pissed and advised her that if she didn’t pay Casey $500, I’d kick her out. Since Heather doesn’t have a job and has dropped out of school, she says she will be able to’t pay [for] it,” he added, explaining that Heather has been dwelling with them rent-free with every little thing being paid for.
Since telling Heather that she wanted to go away, each she and Vicky have accused him of being too harsh.
Most individuals agreed that he has the suitable to ask his stepdaughter to go away for stealing.
“She simply stole $500. That is insane. Inform her to get a job to pay it again or she will be able to cope with it with the police,” one Reddit consumer wrote.
One other consumer added, “I imply, that is the hill to die on. Your priorities have to be your children and you’re permitting a tense and hostile dwelling state of affairs. Vicky must know, both Heather goes or you may not dwell collectively.”
A 3rd consumer agreed, including that he also needs to rethink his relationship with Vicky. “You need to kick her out. She positively crossed the road by stealing. And sorry to say, however you must dump Vicky too if she would not see the severity of Heather’s actions.”
When two households come collectively via marriage or different circumstances, it will possibly create a posh dynamic as everybody adjusts to the brand new household construction. Generally, it will possibly usually current numerous challenges and difficulties.
On this occasion, although, it appears this father is trying to make the suitable resolution, whereas additionally placing his personal kids’s wants first.
Nia Tipton is a Brooklyn-based leisure, information, and way of life author whose work delves into modern-day points and experiences.