Some folks would assume that having a number of kids from totally different fathers would make life tougher for everybody concerned. Nonetheless, one lady with 10 kids from three males is arguing that her household dynamics make life simpler for her, her child daddies, and their kids.
In a TikTok video that has been seen over 52,000 instances, she explains how all of them make it work and depend on one another.
The mom claims that her kids have ‘nice lives’ due to all of the issues her ‘child daddies’ do for them.
Tiffany Connell, who has six organic kids and 4 kids she considers to be her stepchildren, is praising the efforts of all of her child daddies and what they do for her kids, biologically associated or not.
“I raised 10 children with three males,” she says. “And you aren’t gonna consider the stuff that they do.”
Connell shows proof of how her kids’s fathers step in to make the household’s life simpler nonetheless they’ll. For instance, when her daughter, Tru, wanted cash for a promenade costume, she despatched a textual content to DJ, Tru’s father, asking if he may ship her $50 to assist pay for the costume she wished. He did with out hesitation, sending the cash over lower than quarter-hour after Connell requested.
A number of weeks earlier than that, he had despatched her $300 when she and his kids went on a purchasing journey. DJ isn’t the one one in all her kids’s fathers that steps in to assist.
Jeremy, with whom Connell has three organic kids, is completely happy to take care of her different daughter, Maizy, whom she shares along with her present husband, Kobe.
“I requested Jeremy if he may preserve Maizy one weekend in order that me and Kobe may take Tru and Dalton out,” she explains. Tru and Dalton are the kids she has with DJ, who’re completely happy to spend time with their mom and stepfather. Fortunately, Maizy additionally has an amazing relationship along with her siblings’ dad. “She loves him a lot and he loves her,” Connell says.
The mom praises all three of her child daddies for being “so good” and permitting her kids to have the most effective life doable.
“Our children have such a superb life due to these males,” she says. “Even those who aren’t biologically associated to them profit vastly from having them be part of their lives.” Connell is completely happy to report that she has ten “extremely completely happy” kids due to the efforts of the three males, although the relationships took a very long time to construct.
Most TikTok customers admired the efforts of Connell and her child daddies for establishing the most effective lives for his or her kids.
“This says loads about your character as effectively that you’re all related and co-parents, that’s actually admirable,” one person commented. “Be proud mama, you’re setting an amazing instance.” “That is wonderful! My husband and I separated two years in the past and my ladies have essentially the most wonderful daddy. These males deserved to be acknowledged,” one other person shared. “How did you discover not one, however three good males? We want your knowledge,” one other person added.
Nonetheless, others believed that the fathers have been doing the naked minimal and didn’t deserve the reward that they have been receiving. Connell posted a follow-up video, explaining why she’s going to by no means cease bragging in regards to the efforts of her kids’s fathers and their dedication to [making] peaceable co-parenting doable.
“My children’ dads are my greatest pals… and I do know even when we’re not pals, they’re nonetheless gonna be there for his or her children, they’re nonetheless gonna assist me out with cash for the youngsters,” she claims. “They’re all the time gonna be good dads it doesn’t matter what and I worth that.”
Identical to her child daddies try to be good dad and mom to all of Connell’s kids, organic relation or not, she does the identical for his or her kids she isn’t biologically associated to. “I do know what it’s prefer to see a child’s heartbreak as a result of that different dad or mum made a bunch of false guarantees,” she says.
She recollects one Christmas when her stepson was promised a letter from his mom that by no means arrived. “I do know what it’s prefer to have each the great and the dangerous, and it makes me extra grateful for the great,” Connell explains.
Not solely is wholesome co-parenting necessary for the dad and mom to steadiness accountability, however it’s also important for the event of the kids concerned because it reduces stress and supplies them with consolation and stability.
Megan Quinn is a author at YourTango who covers leisure and information, self, love, and relationships.
