A girl on Reddit took to the “r/relationship_advice” subreddit with the intention to…effectively, get some recommendation on her relationship. Based on her title, it could seem that her boyfriend cheated on her, and the recommendation she’s asking for is go from there.
The one downside is that his purpose for dishonest on her doesn’t make a variety of sense to her, which is why she’s confused about how she ought to deal with the scenario.
He claims he cheated on her as a result of he can ‘select who has entry’ to his physique.
The 21-year-old lady wrote submit about her 23-year-old boyfriend who cheated, ensuring to supply the individuals of Reddit with the context to ensure that them to grasp simply how a lot he betrayed her.
“I came upon on Thursday that my boyfriend of two years was dishonest on me for months with considered one of my childhood (EX) greatest associates (20F) and it has fully and completely wrecked me,” she revealed initially of her submit.
She continued, claiming she was uncertain how she would ever get well from that betrayal and emphasizing simply how a lot he and their relationship meant to her — how he “had the nerve to cheat on me after telling me each day how he is ‘by no means beloved anybody as a lot’ as me.”
Throughout their dialog about his infidelity, she claims that at one level, she requested him why he would try this to her, to which he replied “I can select who has entry to my physique.”
In the event you’re confused, simply think about how she felt.
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“This has mentally f–ked me up,” she continued, “and I nonetheless cannot comprehend this case. He texted me right now that this ‘does not have to finish our relationship’ and a few paragraph asking me ‘why’ do I ‘care?’ when ‘it is his physique’ and never mine.”
As any regular particular person would, she defined {that a} basic a part of their relationship was remaining devoted to one another as that they had by no means agreed to open their relationship up.
He claimed that he now “‘understands’ how a lot I ‘worth his bodily physique’ (I by no means stated that) and will probably be ‘absolutely conscious’ of that going ahead in our relationship.” It’s frequent sense that in right now’s society, monogamous relationships are the default, so why didn’t he consider it earlier than?
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His excuse co-opts the ‘my physique, my alternative’ argument that individuals with uteruses use for abortion.
“My physique, my alternative,” is a slogan that could be very generally used within the pro-choice argument in the case of individuals with uteruses accessing abortions. It’s used to combat towards individuals who would relatively prohibit ladies’s bodily autonomy and freedom and principally implies that the predominantly male authorities shouldn’t be capable to legislate towards our bodies that aren’t theirs.
This 23-year-old man on Reddit who merely needed to sleep together with his girlfriend’s greatest good friend has a a lot much less righteous trigger. Not solely is his trigger much less righteous, however this additionally isn’t comparable in any approach to the precise to an abortion.
He entered right into a relationship with this lady. Most individuals perceive that as somebody coming into the settlement of a relationship, you don’t cheat on the opposite particular person except in any other case specified. Particularly not along with her greatest good friend.
His girlfriend isn’t attempting to manage his bodily autonomy, she merely requested for respect towards their relationship. Plus if it’s his physique and his alternative, then it’s her physique and her alternative to go away him, which is what everybody advised her to do. Everybody’s recommendation was that she ought to go away him, and “select” to forestall his “entry” to her physique — and her time.
Isaac Serna-Diez is an Assistant Editor for YourTango who focuses on leisure and information, social justice, and politics.
