
A lady went to Reddit and opened up about her expertise with ending an on-and-off 10-year relationship with the love of her life. Why? Due to her ex-boyfriend’s disabled brother.
The submit by consumer SalinasKS, posted on subreddit r/TrueOffMyChest, not too long ago resurfaced in a TikTok the place the account solely posts movies from the favored confessional and debate web site.
The boyfriend’s brother being the primary precedence was established early on within the relationship.
The poster had been along with her boyfriend, Daniel, on and off for 10 years since they have been in highschool. Nevertheless, since day one, it has been established that her boyfriend’s brother, Peter, was his primary precedence.
She mentioned his unstable and traumatic childhood and that he had poor relationships along with his mother and father. She defined that Daniel needed to tackle the accountability of taking good care of his youthful brother at an early age.
She emphasised that she hated being Daniel’s second precedence and mentioned she didn’t know that was what she was signing up for, regardless that it had been clearly acknowledged since they started their relationship all these years in the past.
The OP mentioned that Daniel was all the time there for Peter and even missed their first time to be intimate with one another to look at his brother’s center college play.
The couple broke up for the primary time as a result of she was distracting her boyfriend from ‘saving his brother’s life.’
The poster claimed that Daniel broke up along with her as a result of she and her son have been distracting him whereas he was attempting to avoid wasting his brother’s life from drug habit.
She defined that Peter ended up falling right into a poisonous relationship with a good friend who acquired him hooked on ache drugs. Daniel needed to be there for his brother on a regular basis and took on the accountability to assist Peter get clear.
The poster claimed she minimize off contact with Daniel for a yr as a result of she was indignant with him for abandoning her and her little one. Nevertheless, she acquired again in contact with him as a result of, she mentioned, “he’s good with my son and has good qualities”
Then, the poster’s ex-boyfriend’s brother acquired right into a automobile crash.
The OP mentioned that Peter was in a coma for 3 days after having important surgical procedure to avoid wasting his life from a horrific automobile crash. She was even requested by Daniel to remain by Peter’s aspect to make sure that nothing unhealthy occurred to him whereas Daniel went house to get some sleep.
She then claimed she felt responsible for having impulsive ideas about Peter dying in order that “this is able to all be over.” She usually imagined a life the place every little thing was over and so they might “be taught to heal.”
Regardless of waking up from the coma, Peter was in a vegetative state and there have been solely two outcomes: he would both get higher or he would cross away.
Peter required important and intense care and Daniel was the one particular person in a position to present it. Daniel even moved out of her house and moved in along with his brother to handle him.
The OP mentioned she did not like how Peter was additionally Daniels’ precedence and that she by no means got here first of their relationship. She requested Daniel to look into placing Peter into residential care, however this concept turned bitter and began “the worst struggle” the couple ever had.
Daniel argued that he didn’t need his brother to be round strangers, nor did he need him to obtain poor care. The poster argued that she needed to dwell along with her boyfriend, however nothing was understanding and claimed their relationship was in all probability not salvageable.
The couple ended on unhealthy phrases when the poster requested if her ex was going to drop their life plans for his brother. And he mentioned sure.
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TikTok commenters say the poster within the unsuitable right here.
The TikTok feedback are flooded with “he set the expectations u did not perceive” and different feedback of such nature.
Some commenters mentioned that they’re not good for one another since she’s feeling uncared for within the relationship, and her emotions are legitimate, however that she knew from the start, and that this dynamic created a messy relationship on either side.
TikTokers within the feedback additionally talked about that the OP made her ex-boyfriend out to be the villain, and that the breakup is the very best consequence for each of them.
Being uncared for in a relationship ought to by no means be okay, however open communication and lively listening should even be priorities in any relationship. Sadly for this couple, neither celebration was doing the correct factor and a breakup looks like the best choice at this level.
Cortney Crowell is a author and contributor to YourTango from New Jersey who covers leisure, information, and human interest-based tales.