There is not any denying that the “Scandoval” affair between Raquel Leviss and her “Vanderpump Guidelines” costar Tom Sandoval is messy past perception. A lady’s longtime companion dishonest on her together with her finest pal? The nice old school man-and-his-secretary dalliance can be much less unseemly.
Accordingly, Leviss has turn into one thing of a pariah because the information broke as an indignant backlash to the affair has erupted amongst “VPR” followers. However latest rumors and developments make it appear to be the uproar could also be taking a harmful toll, and it may be time to ask if the backlash towards Raquel Leviss has gone too far.
‘Vanderpump Guidelines’ star Raquel Leviss is reportedly in a psychological well being facility.
A variety of rumors about Leviss’s whereabouts have circulated with Sandoval himself claiming she’s been pushed to verify right into a psychological well being facility amid the scandal, her personal crew has recommended the power keep was deliberate even earlier than the scandal broke and — in line with rumors circulating on DeuxMoi — fellow “VPR” castmate Tom Schwartz has been out and about claiming that folks near her “are involved about her harming herself.”
All of the whereas, followers have accused Leviss of staging the entire thing for consideration and even claimed that she’s really hiding out on the ultra-posh Miraval resort in Arizona, dwelling a lifetime of spa therapies and massages.
Placing apart the merciless implication that somebody would pretend a psychological well being disaster, one factor is obvious — Raquel Leviss is shutting herself off from the surface world and typically when somebody wants a break, we should always give them one.
The celebs shocked the world when the information broke in March 2023 that Sandoval and Leviss had been having an affair behind costar Ariana Madix’s again, after 9 years in a relationship with Sandoval and a long-running friendship with Leviss.
The indignant response from the present’s followers is a completely comprehensible response, particularly as soon as the main points of the affair got here out—Leviss and Sandoval first had attached in Madix’s automotive, in Madix’s driveway, whereas she was in the home mourning the demise of her canine.
Anger in the direction of Leviss is concerning the least stunning factor about this complete mess, however the outrage has gone overboard and it is clear these concerned are struggling. It isn’t our relationship so possibly it is time to keep out of it.
Lala Kent could have mentioned it finest when she questioned the actual motive behind Raquel Leviss’s motion.
In an April 2023 ‘VPR’ episode that aired simply days earlier than Leviss’s announcement, costar Lala Kent confronted her straight about her psychological well being points throughout a dialog the 2 had at costars’ Scheana Shay and Brock Davies’ wedding ceremony. Within the dialog, she confronts Leviss for kissing Schwartz, the ex of yet one more co-star Katie Maloney.
Kent cautioned Leviss that she believes her total sense of self is derived from her courting relationships. “You already know what I believe? I believe that your self-worth comes from the approval of a person, which may be very unhappy to me,” Kent informed her. That is an unhealthy state to be in below any circumstances, not to mention for somebody within the midst of an especially public relationship mess.
This can be a part of why Kent went on to inform Leviss she thinks she “has a psychological breakdown coming.” She cautioned Leviss that she’s “gonna want some love and… some assist.” That’s, after all, the alternative of what she’s gotten, not less than on a public degree. Leviss has even reported receiving demise threats due to the affair.
It is time to go away Raquel Leviss alone.
What she did is sordid, unkind, a betrayal—the entire 9, and the expertise of being cheated on could be profoundly damaging. Some folks by no means recuperate from that breach of belief.
However there’s purpose to imagine Leviss is in honest and harmful hassle. Ask anybody who’s been by it—folks worrying that somebody they know and love is on the verge of harming themself is a terrifyingly critical matter.
A startling variety of folks don’t survive—in line with 2021 information compiled by the Facilities for Illness Management, practically 14% of individuals with critical suicidal ideation go on to make a suicide try, and one among them dies of suicide each 11 minutes.
It is secure to imagine these dangers amplify when you find yourself a public determine with the complete drive of a tv present fandom and social media attacking you each day. And positive, Leviss “requested for it” by signing as much as be on a actuality present, and celebrities love and crave consideration, and “there is no such factor as unhealthy publicity”—and all the opposite hackneyed, cliché boilerplate we trot out any time an individual’s fame goes necrotic.
She’s nonetheless a human being and one who’s in hassle. We will cope with whether or not or not she “deserves” what’s coming to her as soon as she’s now not in a critical psychological well being disaster. This is not a troublesome idea and should not be controversial to say, particularly given how disproportionate the hate for Leviss has been in comparison with the person she had an affair with.
Hate Raquel Leviss if you need. No person’s asking for her to be forgiven. This should not should be defined, however there’s an enormous distinction between absolving somebody and shedding them in order that they do not damage themselves. It isn’t that sophisticated.
So detest her till the top of days in the event you should. However so far as an outward projection of that loathing goes, possibly hold it to your self. It is time to possibly have a look inward and provides the Raquels of the world a break. The purpose has been made. Sufficient.
John Sundholm is a information and leisure author who covers popular culture, social justice and human curiosity subjects.
