A January 2018 interview with Kelly Clarkson has resurfaced, main many followers to query her parenting type.
Clarkson, 41, has two kids together with her ex-husband Brandon Blackstock, an 8-year-old daughter named River Rose Blackstock and a 7-year-old son named Remington Alexander Blackstock.
The previous American Idol star gave a radio interview to 98.9 The Buzz wherein she tried to justify her chosen type of disciplining her children — spanking.
Kelly Clarkson mentioned she’s ‘not above a spanking,’ which sparked concern amongst followers about her parenting strategies.
Within the interview, Clarkson claimed, “I am not above a spanking, which individuals aren’t essentially into. I do not imply hitting her arduous. I simply imply a spanking. However that is a difficult factor while you’re out in public, ‘trigger then individuals are like, you realize, they suppose that is mistaken or one thing.”
She doubled down on the claims in April 2018 telling Folks, “Our 1-year-old cannot speak but,” earlier than including, “There’s sure issues [where you have to be] like ‘do not do this,” she mentioned whereas demonstrating a slap on the hand.
Clarkson used her personal upbringing in Fort Price, Texas as justification for why she spanks her kids.
In her unique interview in April 2018, she defended her resolution to spank her children, justifying it by explaining, “I am from the South, ya’ll, so we get spankings.” She continued her clarification, saying, “My mother would name the principal if I ever ended up within the principal’s workplace and provides permission for her to spank me. After which I would get spanked at residence as effectively. I am a well-rounded particular person with lots of character, so I feel it is positive.”
By studying between the traces of her assertion, the message Clarkson is sending is, “I used to be hit as a toddler, so I’m hitting my kids, too. However I’m positive, and they’re going to even be positive.”
But it appears that evidently Clarkson fails to understand her actions uphold an outdated type of punishment, which features as a type of passing down generational trauma to her children in actual time.
A press release revealed by the American Academy of Pediatrics in December 2018, one month previous to Clarkson’s interview, took a robust stance towards utilizing corporal punishment with kids.
The AAP declared that “Aversive disciplinary methods, together with all types of corporal punishment and yelling at or shaming kids, are minimally efficient within the short-term and never efficient within the long-term. With new proof, researchers hyperlink corporal punishment to an elevated danger of damaging behavioral, cognitive, psychosocial, and emotional outcomes for kids.”
The article defined that “efficient disciplinary methods, applicable to a toddler’s age and improvement, train the kid to manage his or her personal conduct; preserve her or him from hurt; improve his or her cognitive, socioemotional, and govt functioning expertise; and reinforce the behavioral patterns taught by the kid’s dad and mom and caregivers.”
In easier language, the AAP made the declare that folks who spank their kids are modeling the concept it’s acceptable to be bodily violent. Whereas Clarkson maintained she didn’t advocate for hitting her children “arduous,” she nonetheless confirmed them that it’s okay to hit, on the whole.
As one mother or father on TikTok explains, there are different methods to self-discipline kids, ones that don’t depend on authoritative parenting or fear-based punishment. In her TikTok bio, KJ describes herself as a “cycle breaker” who’s “sharing [her] mild parenting and therapeutic journey.”
KJ posted a video titled “How Generational Trauma Works,” wherein she highlights how dad and mom can react to their kids in ways in which break the cycle of violence they could have been raised with.
There are such a lot of dad and mom doing the arduous work of undoing generational trauma, which requires them to evaluate the methods they have been raised and actively select alternate strategies. It’s actually not simple, however it’s worthwhile and therapeutic for folks, as effectively.
Alexandra Blogier is a author on YourTango’s information and leisure crew. She covers superstar gossip, popular culture evaluation and all issues to do with the leisure trade.
