Though 20% of males cheat, a TikTok consumer named AK trusted her boyfriend wholeheartedly to go on a piece journey throughout the nation. That’s, till he posted an image on the Phillies/Dodgers baseball sport that was eerily just like an image his ex-girlfriend posted from the identical sport.
The TikToker misplaced belief in her boyfriend after she noticed his and his ex-girlfriend’s posts.
In a collection of movies, the TikToker identified that there was a person in a white bucket hat in her boyfriend’s image that was carrying a white shirt as effectively. She added that the identical man was within the ex-girlfriend’s photograph as effectively.
When she confronted her boyfriend in regards to the photos within the second video of her collection, he mentioned that his ex may have been “at any stadium.” She started to level out the similarities between the colours, and the person within the white bucket hat, and that was when he mentioned, “Oh it does type of seem like the Philly stadium.”
AK requested why they might be in the identical spot on the stadium throughout the nation. Her boyfriend continued to gaslight her by stating that it did seem like the identical spot, however they weren’t there on the identical time. She ended up breaking apart with him over the gaslighting and the mendacity.
Within the third half to her collection, which has since been deleted, AK recounted her boyfriend’s response after he noticed her TikToks. “Yo it’s clear that you simply needed to get well-known off of this example, that’s cool, no matter. It’s not that severe, depart me out of it,” he mentioned.
“Sure, I needed to get cheated on so I may make a video that simply occurred to go viral,” she sarcastically responded with an eye fixed roll and a shake of her head.
The gaslighting continued when her now ex-boyfriend additionally instructed her to take the video down as a result of he was “apprehensive about her future.” Her speechless response to that was an exasperated shake of her head.
Customers within the feedback agreed with the TikToker that her ex-boyfriend’s habits was certainly gaslighting.
One consumer wrote “the gaslighting!!!!! Oh honey, I’m so sorry for this.” One other consumer declared that her ex didn’t just like the movies as a result of others had been calling him out and that made it unimaginable to successfully manipulate her anymore. A 3rd consumer mentioned they had been sorry that he was gaslighting her and one thing comparable occurred to them.
Gaslighting is a type of psychological manipulation that creates self-doubt. The gaslighter’s aim is to make their sufferer really feel as if the fact they’re experiencing isn’t actual, subsequently inflicting them to imagine that they’re “loopy.” It’s typically used as a tactic to get their victims to imagine their lies and pressure their victims to really feel like they will’t belief themselves.
Some indicators of gaslighting embrace the “Twilight Zone impact,” the place the sufferer feels as if a scenario is going on on a special airplane of their life. It is akin to being referred to as overemotional or irrational, or being instructed you’re exaggerating.
Tone policing — an occasion the place an abuser may criticize the sufferer’s tone of voice if they’re challenged on one thing, is used so as to flip the script and make them the one at fault — is one other signal of gaslighting. Lastly, isolation and a cycle of heat and chilly habits are indicators.
The TikToker undoubtedly skilled gaslighting from her ex-boyfriend. He tried to make use of the tactic on her to make it look like the baseball stadiums weren’t the identical, and once more when he backtracked and mentioned they appeared the identical however he was not there concurrently his ex.
The gaslighting went additional when he tried to make her really feel just like the dangerous man as a result of she “created” a scenario so she may get TikTok well-known. For sure, she dodged a bullet by breaking apart with him.
Luckily for AK, this tactic didn’t work and he or she eliminated herself from an especially poisonous scenario.
Tarah Hickel is a Washington-based author and a frequent contributor to YourTango. She focuses on leisure and information tales that embrace viral matters and relationships.
