A lady went to a web based discussion board trying to find recommendation on her now-past relationship of two years along with her boyfriend that ended due to an argument about their youngsters. They don’t have any youngsters collectively — this was an argument concerning the youngsters that they’d already had from earlier relationships.
In line with her, her boyfriend refused to let his daughter round her or her youngsters, irrespective of how lengthy they’d been collectively or how critical their relationship was. He’s usually round her youngsters, however she’s by no means round his.
He claims that his daughter doesn’t wish to be round his girlfriend as a result of she harm her mother.
“We have been collectively [for] two years and this entire time I’ve not been capable of see his daughter or discuss to her,” she wrote to Reddit’s “r/Parenting” subreddit. “He simply barely filed the divorce a pair [of] weeks in the past and so they have been separated for 3 years at this level,” she provides, referring to him and his ex.
Two days in the past, on Might 28, 2023, the couple had gotten into one other argument about this downside the place he had revealed to her that his daughter doesn’t wish to meet her as a result of “I harm her mommy” — one thing she claims was positioned into her head by his ex.
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It appears clear that her boyfriend and his ex are nonetheless in touch with one another, even when it’s simply due to their co-parenting relationship, however there’s no transparency from her on how shut they’re or what their standing is when it comes to custody.
“The dialog ended with him screaming at me that [he was] not going to do one thing his daughter does not wish to do and attempting to throw all of his stuff in trash baggage in entrance of my youngsters,” she continued explaining. “I am not sure if I am being unreasonable right here. Is it attainable to have a relationship by which one [partner’s] baby from one other marriage is not concerned within the different [partner’s] household in any respect?”
Whereas she was frightened about that, commenters have been frightened that she bought performed.
They have been extremely suspicious of her now ex-boyfriend to the purpose the place many individuals within the feedback truly congratulated her for breaking apart with him. What actually put the icing on the cake for them was the final line of her submit, which learn, “It is price mentioning [I’m] not allowed to go to any of his household features both as a result of then his [ex-wife] would not go and he does not need his daughter to see it as him selecting me over her mother,” she wrote.
“You are his aspect chick, not his girlfriend,” the highest remark learn, whereas the subsequent reply went a bit extra in-depth with their clarification.
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“Harsh as it might sound that is [it’s] spot on. He’s preserving his baby’s mother within the major slot,” they wrote. “Appears like his child has been given hope mother and pop would possibly get again collectively and also you now signify the explanation that received’t ever occur. That your bf doesn’t want to appropriate her misperception signifies he’s been occasion to creating that phantasm.”
If she’s the aspect chick, then she certain dodged a bullet, as a result of there’s no level in being in a relationship when you’re not all in — daughter included.
Isaac Serna-Diez is an Assistant Editor who focuses on leisure and information, social justice, and politics.
