
One mother on Reddit took to the location’s “r/Parenting” discussion board to ask concerning the predicament she’s in involving her ex-husband and their 4-year-old daughter. After being married for about 4 years, they determined to break up — a course of that took over a 12 months and a half. Now that the 2 are in a co-parenting relationship and newly single, she has an issue along with her ex-husband’s parenting choices.
The mother came upon her ex-husband has their 4-year-old sleeping in the identical mattress as him and his dates.
She began her put up on Reddit’s “r/Parenting” subreddit by offering readers with perception into her custody settlement and divorce particulars along with her ex-husband.
“The one dispute in your entire divorce was whether or not he would have the ability to drink round my daughter,” she claims. “He refused to signal the settlement until I agreed to permit him 2 8 oz glasses of beers or 2 6 oz glasses of wine throughout his complete parenting time (3 overnights each different week).”
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She claims that he’s had an admitted historical past of substance abuse, and so she worries about her ex-husband doing these sorts of issues round their daughter — to not point out the brand new info her daughter has been relaying to her lately.
“This previous weekend my daughter got here house from her dad’s saying issues like ‘Why did daddy push me away from bed for the lady,’ ‘the lady and me slept within the mattress,’ [and] ‘I slept on the ground on my blanket subsequent to daddy and the lady.’”
Not solely is that this an enormous downside due to the unusual girl he’s bringing house, however the mother has introduced up points with their daughter’s sleeping preparations up to now. “He presently lives in an unattached storage that doesn’t have a bathtub/bathe and he doesn’t have a mattress or perhaps a mattress for my daughter,” she wrote. “This has been a difficulty since we separated in 2021.”
She feels as if this case is sort of a ‘bomb ready to go off.’
“I simply came upon from his buddies that he’s relationship a girl (for a couple of month) who has a severe historical past of substance abuse points and was uncontrolled for a protracted time frame a couple of years in the past,” she continued. “They suppose she is sober proper now.”
The mother doesn’t have an issue with the truth that he’s relationship — she’s really ecstatic about it since it’ll take any focus off of her. Nevertheless, she does have an issue with this girl’s involvement of their daughter’s life.
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“His buddies additionally informed me that they’ve needed to cease speaking to my ex as a result of they have been witnessing him behave poorly in direction of my daughter so typically,” she revealed. “I had three separate adults inform me that he’s a foul father over the weekend.”
Because of all this, in addition to the abuse she skilled up to now that got here from him, she determined to confront him concerning the issues she was having. “I requested for one 12 months of no relationship in entrance of our daughter due to his historical past of violence… however he informed me he can do no matter he desires and to speak to my legal professional.”
The nice factor is, she did. Effectively, she talked to her legal professional, however her legal professional stated that it was completely not okay. She doesn’t suppose something will come from attorneys speaking to attorneys, however individuals within the feedback informed her to take it a step additional — “take his a– to courtroom.”
With all the stuff she’s documented in addition to potential affidavits from his buddies, she might have a case for renegotiating their custody settlement. Hopefully, she will get it completed and supply her daughter with a protected place to stay when she’s not at her mother’s.
Isaac Serna-Diez is an Assistant Editor for YourTango who focuses on leisure and information, social justice, and politics.