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By Alanna Sarah
We have all heard it earlier than. A few of you’ve gotten in all probability even mentioned it. A few of you in all probability consider it.
“I am marrying my greatest good friend!”
I see it on Fb, and listen to it on TV exhibits, in every single place. I am pleased for you all. I really am. Nevertheless, I’ll by no means utter these phrases, and this is why.
My greatest good friend and I went by means of faculty collectively, we have grown up collectively, and have supported one another by means of powerful occasions in our lives. I’ve seen her by means of relationship her first few boyfriends and transferring to Seattle together with her present boyfriend. She’s seen me date a handful of losers and has been there once I’ve known as her crying at 1 a.m. within the mornings.
I perceive that I have never discovered “the one” but, however he’ll by no means substitute her.
I 100% belief each my boyfriend and my greatest good friend, however there are some roles that every of them performs in my life that may’t be shared.
For instance:
- Once I’m having a horrible interval and I would like ice cream stat. Boyfriend
- Once I must seek the advice of on feminine physique points. Finest good friend
- Inform me if the costume I am carrying is flattering. Finest good friend
- Pop the pimple on my again. Boyfriend
- Complain to somebody with out them wanting to repair it. Finest good friend
- Mannequin my lingerie. Boyfriend
- Complain about how my boyfriend is driving me nuts. Finest good friend
- Complain about how my greatest good friend is driving me nuts. Boyfriend
- Let my inside imply lady out with out worry of judgment. Finest good friend
- Assist me cling photographs for my gallery wall. Boyfriend
In fact, these are completely subjective. Possibly your greatest good friend would man up and pop that pimple in your again (Ariel, don’t be concerned I will not make you do that), or possibly your boyfriend is completely cool WebMD’ing your embarrassing girly physique points. However that is how I really feel about it.
One other level to say is what if that individual is not obtainable? What if my boyfriend is at work and I am having a panic assault over one thing insignificant per typical? Guess what, I can name my greatest good friend! Or vice-versa. If I am unable to name my greatest good friend due to the time distinction between Seattle to D.C.? I can all the time name my boyfriend.
Additionally, who’s going to be your maid of honor in case your greatest good friend is your fiance?! Okay, I am getting a bit carried away right here…
Have you ever ever had a man inform you that they want “man time”? Guess what, it is the very same scenario. He wants his man-friend time to speak about farts, soccer, or no matter else guys discuss when us girls aren’t round…I do not know. And that is okay.
I believe a boyfriend/fiance/husband could be a greatest good friend however for me, they are going to by no means be “my greatest good friend.” That position is reserved for my greatest (lady) good friend and all the time will probably be.
Facet notice: I am not getting married any time quickly so solely time will inform if I find yourself marrying Ariel…
How do you are feeling about this concern? Did you marry/date “your greatest good friend”?
Alanna Sarah is a contract author and a contributor to BlogHer.
