We have all heard the cliché phrases:
True magnificence comes from inside.
Magnificence has nothing to do with appears to be like.
Inside magnificence cannot shine by make-up.
About that… No. Name me shallow, however my internal magnificence would not stand an opportunity if the best way I look is not as much as par.
I am not saying I have to rival a member of the Kardashian clan each time I go away the home. There’s actually no cause for a totally contoured face while you’re solely making a fast cease on the financial institution, and sure: leggings do depend as pants (if you happen to model them appropriately).
But when my curls are 90 % frizz or I by some means find yourself in public carrying sweatpants, rattling proper I am gonna be lots much less perky than if the whole lot had been in good order.
My have to look put-together to really feel the identical originated a very long time in the past, in a galaxy far, far-off, in a spot generally often known as highschool. I distinctly keep in mind strolling the halls throughout my freshman yr, my hair at all times in a frizzy, low bun. I used to be painfully shy, my eyes continuously fastened on my toes, rigorously avoiding eye contact with anybody alongside my route.
Then, in the future, I straightened my hair — and life’s by no means been the identical.
I obtained numerous compliments on my new, smooth straight hair. It felt good to be observed and admired by individuals my age for what felt like the primary time. I began waking up hours earlier earlier than faculty each day to straighten my curls and apply make-up.
After some time, I noticed that I not walked with my head down. I loved making eye contact with individuals within the halls and typically I even smiled at them. Understanding that different individuals thought I regarded good made me really feel nice. It boosted my confidence and I began treating myself higher and permitting myself to speak in confidence to others.
Quick ahead to right now, and it is extremely unlikely you will see me with straight hair. I additionally hardly ever put on make-up as a result of it is actually a nightmare to make use of. However what I nonetheless maintain expensive to my coronary heart is the notion that trying good and feeling good goes hand in hand, at all times.
Give it some thought: what number of instances have you ever placed on an outfit that technically will get the whole lot proper? Possibly it is a costume in a brand new model you’ve got been dying to check out or an enormous assertion necklace that appears nice in your greatest buddy. Nevertheless, the get-up is not fairly what you are used to. You are feeling uncomfortable, proper? And while you’re uncomfortable, it is onerous to give attention to a lot else.
The identical goes on your hair, your make-up, and the whole lot in between. When the whole lot’s cooperating, you begin your day without work proper.
For me, it is simply plain simpler to be nice after I’m not nervous about whether or not or not my lipstick is smeared after I’m assembly somebody for the primary time, and I’ll be higher firm if I am not continuously tugging at my costume questioning if it is just a bit too quick.
So, positive, true magnificence very properly could come from inside, however a nasty temper begins with what I seem like on the surface — and a nasty perspective is probably the most unattractive factor an individual can put on.
Micki Spollen is a YourTango editor and leisure information author. She additionally runs the journey weblog The place In The World Is My Drink.
