
By Candice Zhang
Ever since I used to be a young person, I’d have a minimum of one acquaintance, classmate, or pal who would imitate me.
They might copy my pursuits, clothes type, and tone of voice. Typically, they’d purchase drinks from my favourite bubble tea store, or partake in hobbies I loved.
Though there’s a saying that “Copying is the perfect type of flattery,” I’ll by no means perceive why somebody would need to copy me.
Many can argue that folks solely copy in the event that they like what the opposite particular person does. For instance, if the opposite particular person buys a brand new shirt they like, they’d need the identical shirt and buy it the following day. In spite of everything, copying is just like how traits work.
Nevertheless, many say folks copy one another as a result of the one who copies doesn’t like their very own life or has their very own pursuits. Consequently, different folks’s lives are intriguing and the copier views their way of life as an inspiration or purpose to realize.
But it surely’s vital to notice that, though copying might be constructive, it will also be detrimental.
Some folks copy simply because they need to compete with the opposite particular person.
They may steal the opposite particular person’s methods and tweak them in a method to profit their very own objectives. It is a widespread tactic amongst companies and entrepreneurs, and it applies to actual life as nicely.
Regardless if copying is constructive or detrimental, there’s one widespread purpose amongst imitation.
When folks copy another person, they view the opposite particular person as a job mannequin. They dwell on the opposite particular person’s qualities they want they’d have however don’t. So, with the intention to fight the emotions of vacancy, they copy others to really feel worthy.
So, to these ladies who copy me from the schoolyard to the office, I actually need to inform you that the grass isn’t at all times greener on the opposite facet.
In case you suppose I’ve the life you need, you’re solely it from a two-dimensional perspective. Chances are you’ll suppose I’m profitable as a result of I’ve the roles and hobbies you need, however, in actuality, I’m undecided you need to dwell my way of life.
I dwell such a fast-paced life that’s disturbing in nature. In spite of everything, you do want some peace and time to your self.
With that being stated, I need to inform you that all of us have our personal objectives in life. Pondering I’ve the best life doesn’t imply it’s the best life. It will not be the easiest way to dwell in keeping with your state of affairs, and it will not be versatile sufficient.
All of us have our personal priorities, which implies the way in which I dwell and the roles I’ve are solely the outcomes of my state of affairs. However your challenges are totally different from mine, which implies there are higher options which might be extra catered to you.
And, similar to you, I’ve my very own insecurities.
There are a lot of issues sooner or later I’m very wired about, together with my educational and profession life. Even when it looks as if I’ve it collectively, I truly don’t and am simply as confused as you might be.
You by no means know what others are going via, particularly for those who solely view one side of their life. Nevertheless, it’s at all times vital to be pleased with your accomplishments.
I’m positive you’ve got been awarded just a few occasions, which others might not have. So, make sure to embrace these moments, as a result of they’re examples of challenges you overcame.
Positive, it’s nice to take inspiration from others. However, ultimately, you realize your self finest. If somebody appears to have a greater life, that doesn’t imply they really do.
In spite of everything, all of us have that one one who we need to be, however they aren’t precisely a mirrored image of who we’re.
Candice Zhang is a author and frequent contributor to Unwritten whose bylines have been featured on Her Campus, The Strand, and others. She writes primarily about well being and wellness, relationships, and present occasions.
This text was initially printed at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the creator.